I’ve been hurt and pained many times. Removing all mercy and grace, being so hard and numb as a rock and holding on to my grudge was the easiest way to cover up the pain I was feeling, I THOUGHT. A stain of hatred was in my heart. Peace was absent. I grieved and prayed for God to remove the pain I was feeling. Asked a lot of times why things weren’t getting better, not realizing I was doing something wrong.
Did I really want to make things bitter or better?
Anger—one of the worst feelings in the world.
A single feeling that leads to negative thoughts against a person that can possibly cause another offense to another person. The trouble goes on
. On Jerry Bridges’ book of Holiness Day by Day, he mentioned, “In facing up to our anger, we need to realize that no one else causes us to be angry. Someone else’s words or actions may become the occasion of our anger, but the cause lies deep within us—usually our pride, selfishness or desire to control.” It made me reevaluate my emotions and thoughts about anger and disappointments and I find it true. It is because of failed expectations and hope. The person wasn’t able to perform according to what I have expected of him/her. We have to realize things don’t always happen how we want them to happen. Things change and most of the time, unpredictable. As well as persons and sometimes, they fail.
A Buddhist saying says “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.” Placing all the blame to somebody and lingering to the feeling of anger can NEVER bring us peace. It is against the will of God that we hold on to it and deny forgiveness from our brothers and sisters. As the scriptures say:
Ephesians 4:31-32 Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tender-hearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.
Luke 6:37 “Do not judge others, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn others, or it will all come back against you. Forgive others and you will be forgiven.”
And in Matthew 5:23-24 “So if you are presenting a sacrifice at the altar in the Temple and you suddenly remember that someone has something against you, leave your sacrifice there at the altar. Go and be reconciled to thatperson. Then come and offer your sacrifice to God.”
When we come to God, He wants a heart that doesn’t hold any anger, grudge, and any other darkness. It doesn’t glorify Him. God has first showed amazing love and forgiveness when He sent his only son Jesus Christ to die for our sins (John 3:16). We have done so much sins and pain against Him more than anyone could have hurt us. If He has shown forgiveness, grace and mercy despite everything, who are we to refuse forgiveness?
Colossians 3:13 Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others.
Matthew 6:14-15 If you forgive those who sin against you, your heavenly Father will forgive you. But if you refuse to forgive others, your Father will not forgive your sins.
It’s not easy. Our common justification to avoid forgiving is “I’m not God, I’m just a human.” Yes, we are limited. We can’t do it alone, but GOD CAN. We need to come to God and cast the heaviness of our hearts on Him. If we believe nothing is impossible with God, we should trust that He can work and change our hearts. Surrender your pride and let Him work in you.
There might be persons in our lives who seems to be so tough to deal with because they have been doing the same mistakes over and over again but NEVER STOP FORGIVING.
Matthew 18: 21-22 Then Peter came to him and asked, “Lord, how often should I forgive someone who sins against me? Seven times?” “No, not seven times,” Jesus replied, “but seventy times seven!”
Pray for that person and lift him/her up to God, rather than enumerating negative things about a person. God can do anything and everything. Treat people with love even though they are hard to love. Never get tired showing grace and mercy. Let’s be consistent and intentional in following the examples of Jesus.
And do not sin by letting anger control you. Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil.—Ephesians 4:26
The time to let go and forgive is NOW.
Lord, Thank You for healing my broken heart and giving me peace. I am so Blessed today with your unconditional Love. I am able to go on with my life and live a happy joyful life because of You Lord. I have given it all to You. It’s in Your hands. I Love You Lord for turning my heart around to a loving and caring heart to be able to show others your Love. In Jesus Name We Pray Amen