A Better Way: week 1
A BETTER WAY TO COURT begins with a look at YOU.
Healthy You = Health Marriage
Identity – Hearing God’s Voice – Obedience
Romans 8:14-15 NIV
14 For those who are led by the Spirit of God are the children of God. 15 The Spirit you received does not make you slaves, so that you live in fear again; rather, the Spirit you received brought about your adoption to sonship. And by him we cry, “ Abba, Father.”
I cannot do life with God if I cannot discern his voice
Jesus said Obedience is equivalent to ‘love’ in John 14
Your most attractive attribute is Doing life with Jesus
1). Pray for your future mate or spouse, but pray Gods way
2). Set Boundaries
Loneliness will cause you to think and then act uncharacteristically of who the Lord says you are.
Take advantage of what is in front of you, instead of looking for what is not yet.
3). Intentional Friendship – It is so important that in the courting process you learn how to be friends first.
Colossians 2:10 NKJV
10 and you are complete in Him, who is the head of all principality and power.
Keep wooing your wife as Christ wooed you before salvation. He continues to woo us by His spirit to spend time with Him, to do ministry with Him.
Ephesians 5:25 NKJV
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her,
Marriage is God’s plan for us to die to self.
My husband won’t talk to me.
She wants to feel her husband is part of her world.
1. Words of affirmation
2. Quality time
3. Receiving gifts
4. Acts of service
5. Physical touch
I Corinthians 11:17 NKJV
17 Now in giving these instructions I do not praise you, since you come together not for the better but for the worse.
Hebrews 6:9 NKJV
9 But, beloved, we are confident of better things concerning you, yes, things that accompany salvation, though we speak in this manner.
If you’re not married, you must marry someone who is a believer and follower of Jesus Christ. If you do not have spiritual oneness in your marriage, you will never have the emotional intimacy that God intends for you to have.
Romans 14:19 NKJV
19 Therefore let us pursue the things which make for peace and the things by which one may edify another.
“Let’s agree to use all our energy in getting along with each other.”
Stop telling your spouse they have problems. His problems are your problems. Her problems are your problems. They are our problems; we are one!
“Love hardly even notices when others do it wrong. For the whole month, let’s not even notice when they do it wrong.”
Ecclesiastes 9:9 NKJV
9 Live joyfully with the wife whom you love all the days of your vain life which He has given you under the sun, all your days of vanity; for that is your portion in life, and in the labor which you perform under the sun.
“Live joyfully with the wife whom you love all the days of February… and if you can do it in February, you can do it in March, and if you can do it in March, you can just keep doing it.”