Life Happens pt. 1

Life Happens pt. 1

Today we begin a series about things that happen in our life that is out of our control.

Examples: Flat tire, water pipe busting, washing machine goes out, refrigerator stops working, someone passes away.

Many people are unhappy because they do not respond correctly to the things or circumstances that they cannot change or control, which leads to unnecessary frustration, disappointment, and suffering.

Now let’s talk about some things we can’t control.

1. The weather

Matthew 8:24-26 NKJV
24 And suddenly a great tempest arose on the sea, so that the boat was covered with the waves. But He was asleep. 25 Then His disciples came to Him and awoke Him, saying, “Lord, save us! We are perishing!” 26 But He said to them, “Why are you fearful, O you of little faith?” Then He arose and rebuked the winds and the sea, and there was a great calm.

“Suddenly”—many times, the things we can’t control appear suddenly, happen suddenly… you didn’t see it coming. It was so sudden. Comments like: this is unbelievable… I can’t believe this has happened.

They had a positive attitude… they were positive they were about to die.

They didn’t realize Jesus had control over the wind and the waves. Note to self: even those things you don’t have control over—Jesus does.

The second thing we can’t control:
2. What other people do.

We have no control over what others do. Their actions are independent of our own. Despite this, some people spend so much time and effort trying to get their spouses, family members, and friends to act differently.

Don’t try to fix people that do not want to be fixed. The greatest thing you can do for them is to regularly pray for them.

To have the most influence on others, focus on changing your own behavior for the better.

Proverbs 18:24 NKJV
24 A man who has friends must himself be friendly, But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

Stop focusing on your problems—or even other people and their problems—and how they affect you.

Start focusing on you getting better and becoming more like Christ in your own life.

You can’t control:

3. How people feel

We have to be sensitive and have empathy for others’ feelings, but ultimately, it is their choice to feel how they feel.

We can’t control:

4. What other people say

People can say whatever they choose and we have no control over that. We only have control over our own words. It is pointless to get upset over the words of others because it is not a reflection on us.

5. Your past

Dwelling on the past is one of the main causes of regret that many people feel.

Mistakes are worth celebrating.

If we don’t celebrate them, mistakes will have a negative affect on our lives.

Now, let’s talk about the great antidote to the “uncontrollables” of life: our attitude.

Philippians 1:27 NKJV
27 Only let your conduct be worthy of the gospel of Christ, so that whether I come and see you or am absent, I may hear of your affairs, that you stand fast in one spirit, with one mind striving together for the faith of the gospel,

No matter what unexpected interruptions, frustrations, or difficulties come our way, we are to respond with a Christ-like attitude.

Philippians 2:5 NKJV
5 Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus,

He also encourages us in Ephesians 5:1 to be “imitators of God as dear children”

Jesus maintained a perfect attitude in every situation. He prayed about everything and worried about nothing. His attitude was never to become defensive or discouraged. His goal was to please the Father rather than to achieve His own agenda.

In the midst of trials, He was patient.
In the midst of suffering, He was hopeful.
In the midst of blessings, He was humble.
In the midst of ridicule, abuse, and hostility, He made no threats and did not retaliate.

When Paul said our attitude should be the same as that of Jesus Christ, he was referring to having an attitude of selflessness, humility, and service.


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