Abusing House Rules pt.1

Abusing House Rules pt.1

Ephesians 4:32 NKJV
32 And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.

Healing doesn’t mean the damage never existed. It means the
damage no longer controls our lives.

James 3:16 NKJV
16 For where envy and self-seeking exist, confusion and every evil thing are there.

Self-seeking – lack of empathy for others; lack of any consideration of others

Ten signs of domestic violence and abuse:
Does your partner ever:
1. make you feel worthless?
2. accuse you of cheating or being disloyal?
3. hurt you by hitting, choking, or kicking you? (these are crimes)
4. intimidate and threaten to hurt you or someone you love?
5. threaten to hurt themselves if they don’t get what they want?
6. try to control what you do and who you see?
7. isolate you?
8. pressure or force you into unwanted intimacy?
9. control your access to money?
10. Stalk you, including calling you constantly or following you?

We want you to know:
1. you’re not alone
2. you’re not to blame
3. you do not deserve to be treated this way
4. you can get help

Colossians 2:10 NKJV
10 and you are complete in Him, who is the head of all principality and power.

Greek: complete – you are in Him, having been completely filled full

I Peter 3:7 NKJV
7 Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.

This is why a loving, caring, forgiving family is so vital to mental, emotional, and physical health.

1. Acknowledgment
2. Appreciation
3. Acceptance

Do you love yourself, or do you hate or dislike yourself? Do you put yourself down or call yourself names?

1. Distorted thoughts Being controlled and hurt is traumatizing and leads to confusion doubts and even self blame.
2. Damaged self-worth Your spouse makes you feel worthless.
3. Fear Attempting to leave an abuser can be dangerous.
4. Wanting to be a savior Desiring to help and love their partners with the hope that they can change them.
5. Family expectations I watched my dad beat my mom. Then I found someone just like dad.
6. Religious Pressure My parents said I should stay with him and make it work.
7. Financial constraints
8. Isolation Our spouse has separated us from our family and friends
through manipulation


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